Friday, May 05, 2006

5/5/05 (PMP) Joy Stealers

When my son disappeared almost 5 years ago, we were robbed of his presence in our lives. We were left holding the bag of his future and the life he might have that would be his own, but yet intertwine with ours. He may have been married and had children by now. So many things can change in a person’s life in those early adult years, but we were not given the privilege of witnessing these things.

There is never a “normal” again. Normal, ordinary life is a thing of the past. We must come to accept (but not like) that we have this profoundly sad mystery in our life. We must come to accept that we may never see our son again.

We can have hope. It is our right. It is right. Until we know the truth, we have no right to declare him either alive or dead with any certainty. We must live in the “not knowing”, unable to move forward or backward in the grieving process. We know not for what we grieve. It is a limbo of extreme proportions, as it involves a life; our loved one.

We would not allow ourselves to be broken, not by the situation, and not by other people. There came a time when we found that we could still experience joy. It was amazing revelation; a privilege of life restored to us.

There are so many simple pleasures that are joyous: a cool breeze blowing on a sunny day, a fragrant bouquet of fresh picked flowers, the endless panorama of an ocean view, a shooting star against a black sky, and the sparkle of a new-fallen snow. There are also personal joys, such as enjoying the laughter of the younger family members, watching our other son grow up into a kind and generous young man, and triumphs made in the world of the missing person’s cause. The latter can be a bittersweet joy, but a joy nonetheless.

Just as we have a right to have hope, we also have a right to experience joy in our lives, despite the pain. Situations can take that away, even if just for a moment, but people should not.

However, the psychics did anyway, or at least they tried to with their horrid tales of pain and death disguised as “helping”.

Unless they can guarantee that their visions are the truth and prove that with results, they have no right to take away our joy and our hope.

If you are the family of a missing person, and are considering seeking out or using a psychic, please ponder the above statement.

We’ll be back next week with the end of our series.

We understand that many people believe that psychics are effective in solving crimes and finding missing people. Please keep in mind that the goal of this series is to help families understand techniques used by persons making these claims and make better decisions about the use of psychics.

Project Jason and its volunteers cannot act as a clearinghouse for persons claiming success in using paranormal means to locate missing persons. We will be unable to respond to emails or other correspondence sent to us from persons making these claims or persons offering information about or referrals to psychics.

We instead invite those persons to present their evidence to the members of the James Randi Education Foundation. They have a forum available for you to discuss your claims.


Anonymous Anonymous said...

You're right. Keep fighting the good fight. Lucinda Williams, Car Wheels on a Gravel Road, track 12.

9:29 PM  
Anonymous RSLancastr said...

Kelly, as with all of yours blog entries in this series, this one has me filled with fury and loathing for the psychics, and near tears for the pain they have put you and their many other victims through.

Thank you again for this important and powerful series.

12:32 AM  
Blogger Observer* said...

Hello, I am new here, I happened acrossed this site through my search for angels. Your topic is of interest to me where it reminded me of a conversation I had on ctv. You may go and read the whole thread.... where it in part discusses what a psychic can do to a family...
I have posted one of my posts here for you to read.

If anyone you know needs assistance, or an ear just to hear, please feel free to drop me a note through my site, I will do what ever is in my power as a p.i. to assist you (no cost),
Everyone please have the best Mother day you can have...know that your child is looking down on smile and look up*

One of my posts on this subject:

You are free to worship whom you will. It is "your choice"
I knew yesterday when I gave my comment there would be those……that “don’t understand”. By putting my statement on there, I can now see ‘who’ doesn’t understand.
When you make a statement “I am praying, or those are praying” then I get the hint that you believe in a power other than us ‘humans”. If you believe in God, and Jesus Christ and the Holy Ghost, then I am assuming you believe in the Bible. Then we are on one accord. And those that have opened the bible, and read on this topic “do understand”.
I am one that has read, and “do understand”. I believe that after you put some energy into this topic (as much energy as you put into the praise of others who are psychics) then you will be giving yourself a chance by educating yourself. And opening your eye’s. After all…’re here after is at stake.

Had you read my entire post, and not just pick the parts of it you needed to pick at, you would have read all you needed to know.

If you believe in God, Jesus Christ, and the Holy Ghost. And you say you are ‘saved’.
Then I would go on to think that what the Bible has to say about this topic would be of importance to you. If you are interested…….read on, if not then that is your choice.

Firstly: The Earth, and Heavens and all that are contained were made by God. They were made for his pleasure and for us. All things were made by him, and him alone.

Heb 4:12 For the word of God is quick and powerful and sharper than any two edged sword, piercing even to the dividing asunder of soul and spirit and of the joints and marrow. And is a discernment of the heart.<<<<< here is the “Power” you want some of!!!

When we say we have faith, it is because we have asked something of God, in prayer. If “we” have the faith of a mustard seed we would be able to move a large mountain. The power is “his” power. “Not our power, Not the Mountains Power” But, God’s power alone.
John 15:7 If ye abide in me, and my words abide in you. Ye shall ask what ye will and it shall be done unto you.<<<<<<<< Again, this is the power of prayer, “using the right powers for the right things” Notice if “you” abide in God, and “his” word’s abide in “you”.

Light and Dark cannot dwell in the same place. For some to say it is God’s power and a special gift from God given to me from “my Grandmother” as we in my family have psychic abilities. Then this person is saying, they have power, set apart from God.
God gives “each” and “every-one” of us that are saved, special powers not just “some”. For some to say they have the power of God, and to lay claim in this way is a “lie”.

Deut. 18:10-12 There shall not be found among you any one that useth divination, (fortune telling, ouja boards, automatic writing) Or an observer of the times, (a person who deals with astrology and horoscopes) Or an enchanter, (magician) Or a witch, (one making compacts with evil spirits-thus possessing supernatural powers) Or a charmer, (hypnotist) Or a consulter with familiar spirits, (spiritist medium) Or a wizard, (clairvoyant, psychic, ESP, telepathy) Or a necromancer, (one who supposedly communicates with the dead; voodoo)
If you out there are reading this and thought it was okay, to believe in those things above, then I would like you to know, that: Light and Dark cannot dwell in the same place. You cannot have God, Jesus Christ, nor the Holy Ghost, and claim to have these special powers.
God gives “each of us” the ability to use “his power” through us. When we become saved, we are filled with the Holy Spirit after baptism, there are gift’s that we have our choosing from. Here are a few: Healing, speaking in tongues, Prophesy, discernment (which is to know the intent and honesty in someone’s heart), to name a few.
These are “not” powers given to us. They are God’s powers used through us, based on our faith in him. The powers given to us by God, cannot be “used” with the powers of darkness by the same person. Why not? Well, that would make God a liar and a hypocrite.
Those powers of darkness are from other places, not from God, Jesus Christ or the Holy Ghost. They are tricks to take you away from the true God. You do not have to literally worship devils to be taken away from God, you merely have to be led away from God “to another place”.

The most quoted scripture: (I believe) is: John 14:6 Jesus said: NO MAN cometh to the Father, BUT BY ME.
So, If he tells you plainly the way, and you chose to read, and speak out for those that do the works of darkness, you tell me, Is the real God, in you?
Darkness, and light cannot dwell in the same place.
A man cannot have two masters.
A house divided…..will fall. (The house being you, yourself) You cannot believe in the true God, and preach everlasting hopes of heaven and salvation, and at the same time pray to stars, devils, spirits, rocks and dirt. Or praise and believe those who “say” clearly they are the wicked ones. That is a hypocrite, who says they are saved, but praise the works of darkness. A hypocrite, is a liar.
Satan was allowed to retain tremendous wisdom and power, along with the violence he acquired, and given this earth as a temporary domain to try the souls of men. He is likened to “a roaring lion” that goes about “seeking whom he may devour.” (1Pet.5:8) He truly has the nature of a vicious, heartless animal but he “transforms” himself “into an angel of light.” He is the source of all evil, lawlessness, lies and “lying wonders” and his retinue of demons assist by oppressing and possessing victims who will let them in;
Impersonating the dead to promote reincarnation and spiritualism.
Know this: 2 Cor. 5:6,8 Knowing that whilst we are at home in the body we are absent from the Lord: We are confident that to be absent from the body, is to be present with the Lord.

Eph. 6:10-18 be strong in the Lord, and in the power of his might. Put on the whole armor of God, that you may be able to stand against the wiles of the devil. For we wrestle not against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this world, against wickedness in high places. Praying always with all prayer and supplication in the Spirit. (See “Holy Spirit”).

He imitates all the gifts of the Holy Spirit; gives advice, reveals mysteries (such as names, numbers, where to find lost articles, etc.) Gives supernatural faith (to walk barefooted over hot coals, to be transported from one place to another); gives power to perform miracles (such as dematerializing articles, bending metal, etc.; predict the future,) etc.

Astrology is condemned in the Bible as “abomination” (Deut.18) It is a pagan practice which encourages people to consult the powers of darkness instead of God. It is fatalistic, tending to paralyze initiative and right judgment and excuses man from his responsibility before God.
“In all your ways acknowledge Him and He shall direct your paths. Delight yourself also in the Lord, and He shall give you the desires of your heart. The steps of a righteous man are ordered of the Lord, and he delights in his way”
The works of the devil DESTROY PEACE and HAPPINESS, and plant seeds of Discord and Fear.

About me:

I believe: Isa. 61:1 The Spirit of the Lord God is upon me because the Lord hath anointed me to…..Comfort all that mourn.

I am a Female Private Detective. I specialize in Missing Persons; I am licensed and Insured. I do not take advantage of people by giving them false hope, nor do I charge any fees. When I said that: Psychics leave people in a crying heap, I meant it, as I have experienced it…..witnessed it…..up close in person, it is a tragedy….on-top of the tragedy of missing a loved one. When a person is missing a loved one, they are very vulnerable, hurting in the deepest parts of their being. To lie to them, use them to exploit them give them false hope and take their money….is the most cruel thing one human can do to another.

If a person is truly of God, and filled with the Holy Spirit, they need only pray and believe. They will not take on the face of wanting personal admiration and money to consult spirits. The Holy Ghost is a spirit, and if a person is rightly saved, then that “saved” person has the use of the Lord Jesus Christ “right in side of them” to do “good works” with the gifts given, as we “are” filled with the Holy Spirit, we are given the power of the almighty through prayer and belief. The only way to get this Holy Spirit is to read the bible, (get saved) and know what evil looks like, if you don’t know that psychics are of the underworld and take on their beliefs….and you claim to be of the True God, then the Holy Ghost will leave you. You cannot have both darkness and light in the same place.

It is your “choice” of free will……choose your God. I would hope you would do your homework before….chosing.

I did not write any of this to hurt anyone, I felt that I needed to explain further…as some of you were upset. You can use your bible and look up the things I have written here, and see if they are scriptually accurate.
It’s sad enough that while we are here, people are missing in the flesh…..right out from in front of our eyes!. Rest assured “we will see them again”. Through God the father , Jesus Christ. (for those who are saved).
But, to lose one’s soul…everlasting, that is the true tragedy.
A true “missing Person” that will last an eternity.

Suzan aka (observer*) and

2:17 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I too feel loathing for the self-proclaimed "psychic" you and other loved ones of the missing have encountered. I do happen to believe in paranormal ability and I am certain it is a gift from God --as surely as one such as musical or athletic talent--rather than something springing from a diabolical source {I am
a Tarot reader ; I have never used the word "psychic" to describe myself but that is what other people call me due to my apparent keen intuition}; however, after reading many of the stories printed in this blog, I am convinced that "psychics" should leave the detective work to LE. I feel sorry and sad upon learning that there are so many charlatans preying upon and taking advantage of grieving people who are searching for answers, searching for their loved ones, trying to bring them back home. God bless you all. Kelly, I am glad you published the articles on this subject. This one of the many, many ways you have helped people. I pray for you every time I pray...and I pray a lot.

11:40 PM  
Anonymous tim said...

Kelly, you have my deepest respect and admiration for your strength and basic decency. You are a truly good person.

3:35 AM  
Anonymous Kiless said...

I don't know if you ever got my links. But these stem from our conversation about internet predators.


6:04 AM  
Blogger Kelly Jolkowski said...

Thanks, Kiless. I did get them. I haven't had time to work with this yet, but I will this summer.

Take care,

2:28 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I got your site from a friend. Very good and very honest, God Bless you and your efforts. I pray that the Lord will protect you.

4:27 PM  

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