5/5/05 (PMP) Joy Stealers
There is never a “normal” again. Normal, ordinary life is a thing of the past. We must come to accept (but not like) that we have this profoundly sad mystery in our life. We must come to accept that we may never see our son again.
We can have hope. It is our right. It is right. Until we know the truth, we have no right to declare him either alive or dead with any certainty. We must live in the “not knowing”, unable to move forward or backward in the grieving process. We know not for what we grieve. It is a limbo of extreme proportions, as it involves a life; our loved one.
We would not allow ourselves to be broken, not by the situation, and not by other people. There came a time when we found that we could still experience joy. It was amazing revelation; a privilege of life restored to us.
There are so many simple pleasures that are joyous: a cool breeze blowing on a sunny day, a fragrant bouquet of fresh picked flowers, the endless panorama of an ocean view, a shooting star against a black sky, and the sparkle of a new-fallen snow. There are also personal joys, such as enjoying the laughter of the younger family members, watching our other son grow up into a kind and generous young man, and triumphs made in the world of the missing person’s cause. The latter can be a bittersweet joy, but a joy nonetheless.
Just as we have a right to have hope, we also have a right to experience joy in our lives, despite the pain. Situations can take that away, even if just for a moment, but people should not.
However, the psychics did anyway, or at least they tried to with their horrid tales of pain and death disguised as “helping”.
Unless they can guarantee that their visions are the truth and prove that with results, they have no right to take away our joy and our hope.
If you are the family of a missing person, and are considering seeking out or using a psychic, please ponder the above statement.
We’ll be back next week with the end of our series.
We understand that many people believe that psychics are effective in solving crimes and finding missing people. Please keep in mind that the goal of this series is to help families understand techniques used by persons making these claims and make better decisions about the use of psychics.
Project Jason and its volunteers cannot act as a clearinghouse for persons claiming success in using paranormal means to locate missing persons. We will be unable to respond to emails or other correspondence sent to us from persons making these claims or persons offering information about or referrals to psychics.
We instead invite those persons to present their evidence to the members of the James Randi Education Foundation. They have a forum available for you to discuss your claims. http://forums.randi.org/forumdisplay.php?f=7