Tuesday, March 07, 2006

3/7/06 (PMP) Laying the Groundwork: The Vulnerable

I don't know if you have children or not, and even if you don't, why don’t you imagine the person you love most in the world? Imagine that he/she is gone, and you have no idea what has happened to them.

Dozens, and perhaps even hundreds of people come forward, offering their "help". They tell you all sorts of things, none of them the same as the others, and none of them ever results in finding the missing loved one. Regardless, you MUST listen to all of it, over and over again, lest you be accused of not wanting to find the missing loved one.

You must listen to them tell you the most horrid things you can imagine being done to one person by another. You must listen to them telling you that your missing loved one was stabbed, beaten, and then their head was bashed in. You must listen as they tell you that your missing loved one was still alive, whimpering and asking for help as he/she drew their last breath, and no one was listening. He/she was all alone, and then the end came.

Nearly all of these people who come to you offering help want you to go through something like that. How did you feel reading that? How many times would you want to hear stories like that? What do you think that does to a person? Do you think it's healthy? How is it that it is called "helping"? Nothing has ever come of it except for pain. Is pain helpful? Does pain find the missing person?

Would you ask someone you care about to go through that? You do if you encourage use of psychics and/or invite them in to the circle of pain experienced by a missing person’s family.

Granted, this is one of the worst cases of this type of thing, but people who are not in this position have no idea of the roller coaster ride of emotions that we ride daily. We live with an ongoing trauma. Anyone in the medical field can understand what trauma does to a person mentally and physically. To add to that trauma needlessly is not a good idea. Needlessly refers to the fact that persons using paranormal means have not proven themselves useful in finding missing persons.

A missing person’s family member is among the most vulnerable in society. They have been weakened by the ongoing trauma, living without knowing what has become of their missing loved one. They may also be experiencing depression. The stress may begin to manifest itself in the form of various physical ailments.

While they may be experiencing both mental and physical deterioration, desperation is then born of the feelings of helplessness and despair. There may be no activity on the case, so they feel they have to take action, any action. Media attention and police attention wane, and families are left feeling alone. Many times, they are encouraged by others to seek out these persons, not realizing just how empty they will feel afterwards. They "bottom out", so to speak emotionally, when nothing comes of the "lead".

This all becomes a vicious circle. No leads in the case equals desperation on the part of the family. No leads or activity also equals no media coverage, which in turn increases the desperation and may prompt family members to engage in less than rational acts. Their desperation propels them along a fruitless road that only ends in disappointment. They are accompanied on this road by the Advantage Takers.

This series will be presented each day Monday-Friday, until its completion, unless urgent matters or posts pre-empt it. All posts in the series will be noted in the title with “PMP”, which stands for “Psychics and Missing People.” This way, you can easily identify other posts in the series by looking to your right in the “Previous Posts” section.

I’d also like to warn our readers that some of the stories presented, including my own, contain graphic descriptions of violent acts which may be disturbing to you.

The disclaimer you see below will be included at the bottom of each new post. We must make it clear what we are not in the business of proving or disproving claims made by psychics or those who are convinced that it is ALL real and true. We exist to assist families of the missing.

We understand that many people believe that psychics are effective in solving crimes and finding missing people. Please keep in mind that the goal of this series is to help families understand techniques used by persons making these claims and make better decisions about the use of psychics.

Project Jason and its volunteers cannot act as a clearinghouse for persons claiming success in using paranormal means to locate missing persons. We will be unable to respond to emails or other correspondence sent to us from persons making these claims or persons offering information about or referrals to psychics.

We instead invite those persons to present their evidence to the members of the James Randi Education Foundation. They have a forum available for you to discuss your claims. http://forums.randi.org/forumdisplay.php?f=7

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Blogger Michelle said...

Good series, Kelly. Thanks...

10:57 AM  
Anonymous Carol said...

Your questions leave me speechless. I can not imagine the pain, that having to hear such as you describe, must bring to families of the missing.

I think this is a much needed topic, Kelly. Thank you for tackling it!

7:35 PM  
Blogger MayraMM said...

Thank you for sharing your story. I'm involved in helping some young people clear their names of a crime that never occurred, simply because a mother, unwilling to believe her daughter committed suicide, insists that the daughter was stalked, raped, and murdered, despite an extensive security system and other protective measures at home. The mother has had several psychics confirm her belief that her daughter did not commit suicide with the medication she had been prescribed, but was stalked, raped, and then forced to ingest the medication (or in some tellings, injected with the medication, even though stomach contents had proof of pill sludge on autopsy). The psychics even go so far as to provide dialogue that they claim took place before the poor girl was "murdered" (even though this all happened in her home, where there were security cameras showing nothing, dogs that didn't bark, and parents who heard no one), the conspiracy between the entire neighborhood, and the incompetence of all officials involved.

The accused are being named by first and last name all over the Internet, and have also received death threats or threats to their children, all because of this re-victimization of the family of the girl who killed herself.

People, at best, tend to believe what they're told, especially if it's heart-wrenching and emotional, but when a psychic tells people what they want to hear, nothing can change their minds.

Thank you for showing how this second wave of victimization is so prevalent in this country.

2:40 PM  

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